I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak?
Not at all. Reaching out for help is a sign of strength and thinking about asking is the first step. I believe that everyone needs a little help getting over that hill which has kept you stuck. What may have worked for you in the past is no longer working and you may feel overwhelmed. But you do have more strength that you think. I will work with you to identify the barriers, coping mechanisms, and tools to overcome and work through those problems.
What’s the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family member?
There is a difference between confiding in a friend and working out issues with someone and someone who is trained to provide therapeutic support. While a friend or family member may provide a listening ear, a mental health professional can help you approach your situation with new new skills, help you gain different perspectives, listen to you without judgment or expectations, and help you listen to yourself. Furthermore, therapy is completely confidential. You won’t have to worry about others “knowing my business.” Additionally, if your situation provokes a great deal of negative emotion, if you’ve been confiding in a friend or family member, there is the risk that once you are feeling better you may avoid that person so you aren’t reminded of this difficult time in your life.
Lastly, a mental health professional is trained to handle difficult situations such as helping to keep someone safe when they are thinking about hurting themselves or to help a person who is in danger get to safety.
Why shouldn’t I just take medication?
Medication alone cannot solve all issues. Research shows that medication (if needed) in combination with therapy creates the best outcomes. What medication does is treat the symptoms. Our work together is designed to explore the root cause of the issue, dig deep into your behavior and teach strategies that can help you accomplish your personal and/or relational goals.
Medication can be effective and is sometimes needed in conjunction with therapy.
How does it work? What do I have to do in sessions?
Because each person has different issues and goals, therapy will be different depending on the individual. I tailor my therapeutic approach to your specific needs. In general, there is usually time spent discussing your concerns and time spent implementing strategies to help you alleviate those concerns.
How long will it take?
Unfortunately, this is not possible to say in a general answer. Everyone’s circumstances are unique and the length of time therapy takes to allow you to accomplish your goals depends on your desire for personal development, your commitment, and the factors that are driving you to seek therapy in the first place. With that in mind, the average time spent in therapy typically ranges from 3-6 months. However, depending on your individual circumstances this could be shorter or longer.
I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?
Your active participation and dedication is crucial to your success. After all, we only see each other for a session a week. It’s the work you do outside of our sessions that will really help you see your personal growth and development.
My partner and I are having problems. Should we be in individual counseling or come together?
If you are concerned about your relationship, and you would both like to work with me, I would initially work with both of you together. After this work, if one of you would like to continue in individual sessions, I could work with only one of you.